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The Defferent of Family Education between 

China and America 

 1st, emphasis is 

emphasis 

is laid 

is 

laid on 

laid 

on family 

on 

family education. 

family 

education. 

  No matter 

No 

matter which 

matter 

which country 

which 

country you 

country 

you come 

you 

come from,

come 

from,

what 

what nationality nationality you 

nationality 

you belong 

you 

belong to 

belong 

to all 

to 

all think 

all 

think t

think 

t

he family 

he 

family is 

family 

is a 

is 

a person's 

a 

person's first 

person's 

first school, 

first 

school, and 

school, 

and th

and 

th

e parent 

e 

parent is 

parent 

is the 

is 

the first 

the 

first teacher. 

first 

teacher. Either 

teacher. 

Either China 

Either 

China 

or Western 

or 

Western countries, 

Western 

countries, either 

countries, 

either the 

either 

the ancient 

the 

ancient ti

ancient 

ti

mes or 

mes 

or the 

or 

the modern 

the 

modern times, 

modern 

times, family 

times, 

family educatio

family 

educatio

n is 

n 

is always 

is 

always in 

always 

in the 

in 

the most 

the 

most fundamental 

most 

fundamental positi

fundamental 

positi

on. 

  2nd, family 

2nd, 

family education 

family 

education should 

education 

should be 

should 

be started 

be 

started 

since childhood, 

since 

childhood, perform 

childhood, 

perform the 

perform 

the duty 

the 

duty promptl

duty 

promptl

y. 

  Family instruct

Family 

instruction 

instruct

ion of 

ion 

of Yan 

of 

Yan said 

Yan 

said that,“ 

said 

that,“ The 

that,“ 

The 

parents should 

parents 

should do 

should 

do the 

do 

the missionary 

the 

missionary work, 

missionary 

work, w

work, 

w

hen the 

hen 

the infant 

the 

infant is 

infant 

is young. 

is 

young. Judging 

young. 

Judging from 

Judging 

from his 

from 

his 

facial expression, 

facial 

expression, we 

expression, 

we know 

we 

know whether 

know 

whether he 

whether 

he is 

he 

is 

angry or 

angry 

or happy, 

or 

happy, then 

happy, 

then give 

then 

give instructions.”[ 

give 

instructions.”[ “F

instructions.”[ 

“F

amily Instruction 

amily 

Instruction of 

Instruction 

of Yan” 

of 

Yan” ,

Yan” 

,  Zhitui Yan,  

Zhitui 

Yan,  So

uthern and 

uthern 

and Norther

and 

Northern 

Norther

n Dynasties] 

n 

Dynasties] Because 

Dynasties] 

Because “i

Because 

“i

t’s easy 

t’s 

easy to 

easy 

to concentrate 

to 

concentrate a 

concentrate 

a child’s 

a 

child’s attention.

child’s 

attention.

After 

After he he grows 

he 

grows up, 

grows 

up, his 

up, 

his attention 

his 

attention is 

attention 

is easily 

is 

easily 

dispersed, so 

dispersed, 

so a 

so 

a child 

a 

child must 

child 

must be 

must 

be caught 

be 

caught earl

caught 

earl

y.” Dewey 

y.” 

Dewey also 

Dewey 

also thought 

also 

thought the 

thought 

the family 

the 

family educatio

family 

educatio

n should 

n 

should be 

should 

be executed 

be 

executed early. 

executed 

early. 

  3rd, parents' 

3rd, 

parents' unsuilable 

parents' 

unsuilable role 

unsuilable 

role division 

role 

division in 

division 

in e

in 

e

ducation brings 

ducation 

brings about 

brings 

about some 

about 

some bad 

some 

bad results. 

bad 

results. 

  Either in 

Either 

in China 

in 

China or 

China 

or in 

or 

in the 

in 

the West 

the 

West mother 

West 

mother is 

mother 

is 

almost described 

almost 

described in 

described 

in many 

in 

many cultures 

many 

cultures as 

cultures 

as the 

as 

the 

main fosterer, 

main 

fosterer, and 

fosterer, 

and then 

and 

then father 

then 

father plays 

father 

plays only 

plays 

only 

a part. 

a 

part. The 

part. 

The father 

The 

father is 

father 

is the 

is 

the main 

the 

main undertaker 

main 

undertaker 

who teaches 

who 

teaches the 

teaches 

the child 

the 

child to 

child 

to know 

to 

know the 

know 

the rationa

the 

rationa

lity education. 

lity 

education. Mother 

education. 

Mother is 

Mother 

is responsible 

is 

responsible for 

responsible 

for c

for 

c

hild's food 

hild's 

food and 

food 

and drink 

and 

drink in 

drink 

in daily 

in 

daily life, 

daily 

life, the 

life, 

the mat

the 

mat

erial guarantee, 

erial 

guarantee, the 

guarantee, 

the emotional 

the 

emotional satisfaction 

emotional 

satisfaction 

and so 

and 

so on, 

so 

on, is 

on, 

is also 

is 

also the 

also 

the main 

the 

main undertaker 

main 

undertaker of

undertaker 

of

child’s 

child’s emotional emotional cultivation. 

emotional 

cultivation. Its 

cultivation. 

Its result 

Its 

result is 

result 

is 

that the 

that 

the child 

the 

child holds 

child 

holds his 

holds 

his father 

his 

father in 

father 

in awe 

in 

awe and 

awe 

and 

veneration and 

veneration 

and causes 

and 

causes the 

causes 

the poor 

the 

poor relation 

poor 

relation be

relation 

be

tween child 

tween 

child and 

child 

and father, 

and 

father, and 

father, 

and thus 

and 

thus affects 

thus 

affects c

affects 

c

hild's perfect 

hild's 

perfect development. 

perfect 

development. 

  5th, attach 

5th, 

attach importance 

attach 

importance to 

importance 

to teaching 

to 

teaching by 

teaching 

by pe

by 

pe

rsonal example 

rsonal 

example as 

example 

as well 

as 

well as 

well 

as verbal 

as 

verbal instructio

verbal 

instructio

n. 

  The parents 

The 

parents are 

parents 

are child's 

are 

child's models, 

child's 

models, usually 

models, 

usually a

usually 

a

simple 

simple movement movement is 

movement 

is more 

is 

more effective 

more 

effective than 

effective 

than t

than 

t

he inculcation 

he 

inculcation of 

inculcation 

of ten 

of 

ten thousand 

ten 

thousand instructions. 

thousand 

instructions. 

  However, the 

However, 

the traditional 

the 

traditional family 

traditional 

family education

family 

education

in 

in China, China, on 

China, 

on account 

on 

account of 

account 

of the 

of 

the respective 

the 

respective dif

respective 

dif

ferences in 

ferences 

in more 

in 

more aspects 

more 

aspects is 

aspects 

is different 

is 

different from

different 

from

that 

that in in the 

in 

the West . 

the 

West . They have 

They 

have their 

have 

their own 

their 

own c

own 

c

haracteristics between 

haracteristics 

between regions 

between 

regions andcultures. 

regions 

andcultures. 

  To begin 

To 

begin with, 

begin 

with, the 

with, 

the tendency 

the 

tendency of 

tendency 

of education

of 

education

is 

is different. different. 

  The Chinese 

The 

Chinese parents 

Chinese 

parents lay 

parents 

lay emphasis 

lay 

emphasis on 

emphasis 

on so

on 

so

cial enlightenment, 

cial 

enlightenment, ignore 

enlightenment, 

ignore the 

ignore 

the growth 

the 

growth of 

growth 

of c

of 

c

hildren. The 

hildren. 

The Chinese 

The 

Chinese parents 

Chinese 

parents take 

parents 

take the 

take 

the soci

the 

soci

al compatible 

al 

compatible enlightenment 

compatible 

enlightenment seriously, 

enlightenment 

seriously, but

seriously, 

but

often 

often neglect neglect the 

neglect 

the development 

the 

development of 

development 

of children

of 

children

's characteristics, 

's 

characteristics, they 

characteristics, 

they often 

they 

often train 

often 

train the 

train 

the child

the 

child

ren under 

ren 

under established 

under 

established forms 

established 

forms , 

forms 

, and 

, 

and lay 

and 

lay dow

lay 

dow

n the 

n 

the broad 

the 

broad road 

broad 

road for 

road 

for their 

for 

their growth. 

their 

growth. 

中国和美国之间的家庭教育

Defferent  

第一，重点是放在家庭教育。

  

  

无论你来自哪个国家，

无论你来自哪个国家，

你属于什么国

籍，都认为家庭是一个人的第一所学

校，和父母是第一任老师。无论是中

国还是西方国家，无论是古代或近代，

家庭教育始终是最根本的位置。

  

  2

，家庭教育应开始从小，及时履行

职责。

  

  

家庭指令燕说，

家庭指令燕说，

“

父母应该做的宣教工

作，当婴儿是年轻的。从他的面部表

情来看，我们知道他是否是愤怒或快

乐，然后给予说明。焉

“[”

家庭教学

“

，

Zhitui

燕，南北朝

]

，因为

”

很容易集中

孩子的注意力。他长大后，他的注意

力很容易分散，所以孩子必须早期发

现。

“

杜威也认为应执行早期的家庭教

育。

  

  

第三，

第三，

家长在教育

unsuilable

角色分

工带来一些坏的结果。

  

  

无论在中国还是在西方的母亲几乎

无论在中国还是在西方的母亲几乎

是描述在许多文化为主体的鼓励者，

然后父亲只起到一部分。父亲是谁教

孩子知道理性教育的主要承办单位。

母亲是孩子的食物和饮料，在日常生

活中的物质保证，情感上的满足等，

也是孩子的情感培养的主要承担者。

其结果是，孩子持有敬畏和崇拜他的

父亲和导致贫困孩子和父亲之间的关

系，从而影响孩子的完美发展。

  

  5

，重视教学，通过个人的例子，以

及口头指令。

  

  

父母是孩子的模式，

父母是孩子的模式，

通常是一个简单

的动作比近万指令的灌输更有效。

  

  

然而，在更多的方面各自的差异，在

然而，在更多的方面各自的差异，在

中国传统的家庭教育是在西方的不

同。他们有自己的特色区域和文化之

间的

  

首先，教育的倾向是不同的。

首先，教育的倾向是不同的。

  

  

中国家长强调注重社会教化，

中国家长强调注重社会教化，

忽视对

孩子的成长。中国家长的社会兼容的

启蒙运动的重视，但往往忽视了儿童

的特点的发展，他们往往根据设立形

式培训的孩子，放下他们的成长的康

庄大道。

  

  The western 

The 

western parents 

western 

parents provide 

parents 

provide the 

provide 

the children

the 

children

a 

a environment environment for 

environment 

for growth 

for 

growth resistant 

growth 

resistant to 

resistant 

to the

to 

the

m, and 

m, 

and foster 

and 

foster their 

foster 

their tenacious 

their 

tenacious individuality 

tenacious 

individuality 

and the 

and 

the good 

the 

good conduct, 

good 

conduct, and 

conduct, 

and they 

and 

they choose 

they 

choose th

choose 

th

eir idea 

eir 

idea and 

idea 

and way 

and 

way of 

way 

of cultivation 

of 

cultivation according 

cultivation 

according t

according 

t

o the 

o 

the change 

the 

change of 

change 

of society 

of 

society and 

society 

and the 

and 

the characteri

the 

characteri

stic of 

stic 

of children 

of 

children physical 

children 

physical and 

physical 

and mental. 

and 

mental. 

  Secondly, the 

Secondly, 

the value 

the 

value of 

value 

of family 

of 

family education 

family 

education i

education 

i

s different. 

s 

different. 

  The function 

The 

function of 

function 

of China’s 

of 

China’s family 

China’s 

family education

family 

education

is 

is forced forced by 

forced 

by the 

by 

the China’s 

the 

China’s traditional 

China’s 

traditional cultur

traditional 

cultur

e. The 

e. 

The Chinese 

The 

Chinese traditional 

Chinese 

traditional Confucian 

traditional 

Confucian cultur

Confucian 

cultur

e emphasize 

e 

emphasize “the 

emphasize 

“the cultivation 

“the 

cultivation of 

cultivation 

of one’s 

of 

one’s mora

one’s 

mora

l character, 

l 

character, the 

character, 

the running 

the 

running of 

running 

of one’s 

of 

one’s family, 

one’s 

family, th

family, 

th

e administration 

e 

administration of 

administration 

of a 

of 

a state, 

a 

state, the 

state, 

the peace 

the 

peace and

peace 

and

security 

security of of the 

of 

the world”. 

the 

world”. In 

world”. 

In this 

In 

this directional 

this 

directional 

thought, the 

thought, 

the family 

the 

family education 

family 

education is 

education 

is bestowed 

is 

bestowed 

on the 

on 

the direct 

the 

direct social 

direct 

social significance. 

social 

significance. In 

significance. 

In additio

In 

additio

n, the 

n, 

the Chinese 

the 

Chinese traditional 

Chinese 

traditional culture 

traditional 

culture also 

culture 

also rega

also 

rega

rds the 

rds 

the family 

the 

family education 

family 

education and 

education 

and children's 

and 

children's ind

children's 

ind

ividual growth 

ividual 

growth as 

growth 

as the 

as 

the direct 

the 

direct correlative 

direct 

correlative cau

correlative 

cau

ses and 

ses 

and effects. 

and 

effects. The 

effects. 

The Chinese 

The 

Chinese parents 

Chinese 

parents care 

parents 

care 

about the 

about 

the reputation 

the 

reputation in 

reputation 

in educating 

in 

educating the 

educating 

the chil

the 

chil

d, thinking 

d, 

thinking educating 

thinking 

educating the 

educating 

the child 

the 

child to 

child 

to become

to 

become

a 

a useful useful person 

useful 

person is 

person 

is their 

is 

their achievement, 

their 

achievement, but

achievement, 

but

if 

if not, not, the 

not, 

the parents 

the 

parents feel 

parents 

feel shameful. 

feel 

shameful. The 

shameful. 

The ed

The 

ed

ucation's goal 

ucation's 

goal is 

goal 

is for 

is 

for earning 

for 

earning their 

earning 

their living, 

their 

living, f

living, 

f

or honor. 

or 

honor. 

  The western 

The 

western family 

western 

family education 

family 

education is 

education 

is different

is 

different

from 

from china china in 

china 

in the 

in 

the educational 

the 

educational goal. 

educational 

goal. Educa

goal. 

Educa

tion is 

tion 

is not 

is 

not the 

not 

the preparation 

the 

preparation for 

preparation 

for earning 

for 

earning the

earning 

the

ir living, 

ir 

living, but 

living, 

but for 

but 

for survival. 

for 

survival. “The 

survival. 

“The learned 

“The 

learned edu

learned 

edu

cation” they 

cation” 

they emphasize 

they 

emphasize ha

emphasize 

has 

ha

s the 

s 

the value 

the 

value of 

value 

of m

of 

m

olding one’s 

olding 

one’s mind, 

one’s 

mind, one 

mind, 

one kind 

one 

kind of 

kind 

of value 

of 

value whic

value 

whic

h has 

h 

has nothing 

has 

nothing to 

nothing 

to do 

to 

do with 

do 

with the 

with 

the utility 

the 

utility or 

utility 

or the

or 

the

occupation 

occupation consideration. consideration. 

   In fact, 

In 

fact, Western 

fact, 

Western family 

Western 

family does 

family 

does not 

does 

not make 

not 

make t

make 

t

he comparison 

he 

comparison painstakingly, 

comparison 

painstakingly, but 

painstakingly, 

but the 

but 

the Chin

the 

Chin

ese family’s 

ese 

family’s comparison 

family’s 

comparison has 

comparison 

has brought 

has 

brought abou

brought 

abou

t a 

t 

a serious 

a 

serious problem: 

serious 

problem: Competing 

problem: 

Competing 

  Thirdly, the 

Thirdly, 

the view 

the 

view of 

view 

of who 

of 

who is 

who 

is the 

is 

the main 

the 

main bod

main 

bod

y of  

y 

of  the family 

the 

family and 

family 

and the 

and 

the reciprocity 

the 

reciprocity of 

reciprocity 

of edu

of 

edu

cation are 

cation 

are different. 

are 

different. 

  The Chinese 

The 

Chinese traditional 

Chinese 

traditional family 

traditional 

family culture 

family 

culture is 

culture 

is 

following the 

following 

the dominant 

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emphasizes 

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y. They 

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stinct development, 

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pment. Parents' 

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tention the 

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tern home 

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child's dominations, 

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the Chinese 

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ded the 

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owledge, the 

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the family 

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family mainly 

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the chi

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ld’s the 

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curiosity. So 

curiosity. 

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parents by

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by

making 

making children children interested 

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the nature 

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nature 

and fairy 

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fairy stories, 

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the children 

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roader imagination 

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e knowledge 

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creation. 

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gard the 

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the psychological 

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psychological development 

psychological 

development as 

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the

highest 

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direction, 

so the 

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the cultivation 

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ld's interest 

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point of 

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of Western 

of 

Western family 

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family education. 

family 

education. 

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the difference 

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een family 

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family and 

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individual. 

  The China’s 

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China’s 

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culture takes 

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takes the 

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the 

family as 

family 

as the 

as 

the focus, 

the 

focus, pays 

focus, 

pays great 

pays 

great attention 

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attention t

attention 

t

o individual 

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individual responsibility 

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responsibility and 

responsibility 

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duty. This 

duty. 

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i

s performed 

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performed in 

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in the 

in 

the value 

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value orientation: 

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orientation: 

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f

amily education 

amily 

education function 

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function is 

function 

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n the 

n 

the Chinese 

the 

Chinese tradition 

Chinese 

tradition of 

tradition 

of society, 

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family s

family 

s

houlders many 

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many kinds 

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of social 

of 

social functions. 

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functions. It

functions. 

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has 

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of building 

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building 

the country 

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country and 

country 

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family with 

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rts. But 

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the children 

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of

family 

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the home 

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ation's vital 

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vital role 

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in achieving 

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achieving the 

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goal“the family 

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family 

education is 

education 

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lasting”. It 

lasting”. 

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is 

a tool 

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tool with 

tool 

with which 

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the positions 

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positions of 

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of family  

of 

family  

and social 

and 

social politics 

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politics are 

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are maintained 

are 

maintained and 

maintained 

and dev

and 

dev

eloped family 

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family culture 

family 

culture is 

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is presented 

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presented and 

presented 

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ried forward. 

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forward. (2) 

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family be

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nefit as 

nefit 

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main 

value orientation. 

value 

orientation. “Bring 

orientation. 

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honor to 

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to ancestors”, 

to 

ancestors”, “the 

ancestors”, 

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illustrious 

family

status” 

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scholar's goal 

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to pursue . 

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pursue . The

personal 

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and 

the family 

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family benefit 

family 

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re merging 

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merging into 

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one organic 

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osely related 

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related 

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immotality” 

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f Chinese 

f 

Chinese traditional 

Chinese 

traditional culture. 

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culture. 

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western culture 

western 

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takes 

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as 

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focus 

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great attention 

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attention to 

attention 

to individual

to 

individual

freedom 

freedom and and right. 

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right. And 

right. 

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in education, 

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westerners’ 

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the educated 

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ent status, 

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ation 

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dard and 

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relative. This 

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ablished, which 

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the 14th 

the 

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14th 

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the 16th 

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nturies, “Franch 

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the 18th 

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e “ideological 

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at the 

at 

the be

the 

be

ginning of 

ginning 

nitiated the 

nitiated 

of 20th 

of 

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20th century. 

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natural and 

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century. Then, 

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free education. 

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education. De

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wey proposed 

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proposed that 

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education is 

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ducation is 

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life, individual 

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stead of 

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the child 

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resses his 

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o not 

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the child 

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posure. Such 

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ses the 

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the child 

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vidual ability 

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cation and 

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hool education? 

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n. However, 

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the Chine

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se 

family is 

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expressing love, 

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communication between 

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the Chinese 

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cation is 

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to saying 

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ter

m to 

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to instruct 

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es cause 

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person without 

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lps the 

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the child 

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be loyal 

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loyal son” 

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son” bring 

son” 

bring about 

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about 

the difficulty 

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in strengthening 

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al education. 

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parents show 

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on to 

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the children 

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parents pay 

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at attention 

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to individual 

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quality and 

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motional communication. 

motional 

communication. The 

communication. 

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mphasis on 

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on the 

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the construction 

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ation of 

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me to 

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the child, 

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attentively

to 

to the the child's 

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aspirations, and 

aspirations, 

and emphasize 

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heart to 

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heart communication. 

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communication. In 

communication. 

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countries, the 

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the corporal 

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corporal punishment 

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punishment also 

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of

fends the 

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law. 

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pare

nts are 

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praising their 

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in front 

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that this 

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may raise 

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raise child's 

raise 

child's self-confidence. 

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self-confidence. But 

self-confidence. 

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the 

Chinese modest 

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modest attitude 

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attitude causes 

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the 

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an not 

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not to 

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y think 

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be a

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rrogant, they 

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ning child's 

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child's weakness. 

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weakness. 

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education 

method is 

method 

is different. 

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different. 

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Chinese traditional 

Chinese 

traditional education 

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education metho

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d is 

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a type 

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which people 

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repeat what 

repeat 

what the 

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child with 

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it. It 

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child receives

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receives

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study. 

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an ancient 

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proverb. If

proverb. 

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the 

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book 

is read 

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read hundreds 

read 

hundreds of 

hundreds 

of times, 

of 

times, its 

times, 

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meaning is 

meaning 

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shown naturally”. 

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naturally”. 

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aid “read 

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if yo

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u can’t 

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ways render 

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the 

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mily educational 

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egularly. And 

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set up

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up

the 

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nances, foster 

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money matters, 

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ay great 

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attention to 

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raising basic 

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managing money 

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money matters. 

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matters. The 

matters. 

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western 

parents teach 

parents 

teach the 

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the child 

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child to 

child 

to make 

to 

make plans 

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plans for 

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budget items, 

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items, learn 

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to spend 

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spend money 

spend 

money reaso

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reaso

nably; They 

nably; 

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encourage the 

encourage 

the child 

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child to 

child 

to work 

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work o

work 

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utside to 

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to gain 

to 

gain income 

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income by 

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by themselves; 

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themselves; 

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educate 

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child to 

child 

to store 

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store up 

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up the 

up 

the wealth,

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wealth,

not 

not to to spend 

to 

spend money 

spend 

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freely; They 

freely; 

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help the

help 

the

child 

child learn learn to 

learn 

to donate, 

to 

donate, help 

donate, 

help other 

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other people; 

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people; 

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the child 

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child to 

child 

to be 

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be honest, 

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the 

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t

he child 

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virtue; 

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the

y teach 

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of managing 

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managing money 

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the child 

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money matters 

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hold the 

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matters and 

matters 

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thers. 

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ucation 

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the Chinese 

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Chinese 

culture begins 

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religion, 

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the scientific 

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re in 

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education and 

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and religion 

and 

religion 

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be separated. 

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separated. 

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western religious 

western 

religious tradition 

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tradition still 

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retain

s the 

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the formidable 

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formidable influence 

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influence even 

influence 

even in 

even 

in modern

in 

modern

times. 

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permeats through 

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f educational 

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strong 

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it entr

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usts Western 

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education with 

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piritual value. 

piritual 

value. Because 

value. 

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of this, 

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the western

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western

missionary 

missionary schools schools have 

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ue. The 

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cation. For 

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they must 

they 

must thank 

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thank God

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must 

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judge 

from the 

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the God's 

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standard, and

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and

every 

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all members 

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members of 

members 

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the family

the 

family

must 

must go go to 

go 

to the 

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the church 

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church to 

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to make 

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make the 

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the Mass,

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the pure 

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of mind

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forever. 

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dea often 

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causes some 

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  1

、教育倾向不同。

、教育倾向不同。

    

中国父母重社会教化，轻儿童成长。中国父母

中国父母重社会教化，轻儿童成长。中国父母

十分重视社会适应性的教化，但却常常忽视了从孩

子达到身心发展的特点出发来促进其成长，他们往

往按照既定的模式来培养子女，为他们的成长铺设

康庄大道，外铄各种品行于子女。

    

西方父母更重视为子女提供一个可以与之抗争

西方父母更重视为子女提供一个可以与之抗争

的成长环境，并养成他们坚韧的个性和良好的品

行，根据社会的变化和子女身心的特征不断的调

节、选择自己的培养观念和方式。

    2

、家庭教育价值观不同

、家庭教育价值观不同

    

中国家庭教育职能是为中国传统文化所强迫，

中国家庭教育职能是为中国传统文化所强迫，

传统中国几千年的儒家文化强调

“

修身、齐家、治国、

平天下

”

。在此家国同构的思维定向中，家庭教育被

赋以直接的社会意义。此外，中国传统的文化又将

父母教育跟子女的个体成长与成就看作是直接相

关的因果。中国父母十分看重人们对他们的教子方

面作出的誉毁，认为教子成材是他们的成就，而教

子不善则脸面无光。教育的目的是为了谋生，为了

脸面。

脸面。

    

西方家庭教育则认为教育的目的不是准备谋

西方家庭教育则认为教育的目的不是准备谋

生，而是准备生存。他们所强调的

“

博雅教育

”

是具

有一种塑造心智的价值，一种与功利的或职业的考

虑无关的价值。

虑无关的价值。

    

    3

、家庭主体观与教育的相互性不同

    

中国传统的家庭文化因袭着统治的模式，表现

中国传统的家庭文化因袭着统治的模式，表现

为家庭内部的权威意识。强调服从和尊重，重视外

部控制。在中国的传统文化中，家庭的主要教育者

是父母。中国父母的家长意识十分强烈。他们把孩

子视为自己的独有私人财产，看作是他们的附属

物。因此十分看重他们单方面的塑造，影响孩子的

个性建构。他们注意到自身的形象，忽视了孩子与

成人的相互作用，忽视了相互影响的过程和全面

性，使幼儿处于被动地位，无视幼儿个体的存在。

性，使幼儿处于被动地位，无视幼儿个体的存在。

    

西方文明是以儿童为主体的，更强调个人的奋

西方文明是以儿童为主体的，更强调个人的奋

斗，强调平等、民主并尊重个人权利。西方父母把

孩子视为家庭中的平等成员，尊重孩子的人格和尊

严，能让孩子独立思考，自由选择。他们尊重孩子

的权利，不搞强迫教育。尊重孩子的自尊，主张孩

子的天性发展，自然发展。父母的责任只在于发现

并引导孩子的兴趣和潜能。为孩子创造有利的环

境，重视与孩子的交流，重视教育的相互性。西方

家庭教育中父母不是孩子的主宰，而是孩子的朋

友。

友。

    

       

4

、教育的重心不同

、教育的重心不同

5

、家庭本位与个人本位

、家庭本位与个人本位

    

中国传统文化是以家庭为本位的，注重个人的

中国传统文化是以家庭为本位的，注重个人的

职责与义务。这在加以价值取向上呈现出如下特

点：（

点：

（

1

）家庭的教育功能强化。在中国传统社会，

家庭肩负多种的社会职能。其具有家国同构的鲜明

特性。而子女教育是家庭生命延续的一部分，因此

家庭教育的重要作用还在于达到

“

家教持久

”

的目

的。它是维持发展家庭社会政治地位，保存弘扬家

庭文化的重要工具。（

2

）教育以家庭利益为主要

价值取向。

“

光宗耀祖

”

、

“

光耀门第

”

是读书人的追

求与目标。个人利益与家庭利益是融为一体的。这

与中国传统文化的

“

永生观

”

紧密相关。

紧密相关。

    

西方文化以个人为本位，注重个人的自由和权

西方文化以个人为本位，注重个人的自由和权

利。在教育上表现为将受教育者放在突出地位，强

调个性的培养。个人本位与西方的家庭变革密切相

关。这种教育传统历经

14

至

16

世纪的文艺复兴

运动，

18

世纪的法国资产阶级思想启蒙运动以及

2

0

世纪初的实用主义等思潮而确定下来。卢梭倡导

自然和自由的教育。杜威提出教育即生长，教育即

生活，个人是掌握自身经验建构的主体。但是个体

本位并不等于个人主义，更不等同于以孩子为中

心，家庭呼唤有丰富个性的个人，是能驾御自我，

控制自我，超越自我的，拥有完美人格和健全个性

的真正现代意义上的现代个人，而不是自私自利，

依赖性强的功利化的个人。

依赖性强的功利化的个人。

    6

、独立意识的培养

、独立意识的培养

7

、情感教育与体罚

、情感教育与体罚

   

    8

、教育方法的不同

、教育方法的不同

    

中国传统的教育方法是照本宣科的灌输式教

中国传统的教育方法是照本宣科的灌输式教

育，强调死记硬背。孩子们是接受学习。

强调死记硬背。

孩子们是接受学习。古谚之

孩子们是接受学习。

古谚之

“

书

读百遍，其意自现

”

。朱熹也说

“

读书记遍数，足而

未诵再读，虚而已诵至满

”

。因此中国家长最喜欢看

到孩子坐在书桌前，或摇头晃脑地背诵，或趴在书

桌上演习。眼睛不离书本，

桌上演习。

眼睛不离书本，手不离书本。

眼睛不离书本，

手不离书本。

“

两耳不闻

窗外事，一心只读圣贤书

窗外事，

一心只读圣贤书

”

。把古人的知识，圣人的

把古人的知识，

圣人的

经验，一股脑的装进肚，而消化不消化则不闻不问。

    

西方更强调孩子的

西方更强调孩子的

“

悟

”

。他们喜欢让孩子亲身厉

行，去大自然中，去生活中探求知识。他们寓学习

于多种形式。西方家庭有专门的烹饪课、手工课和

游戏室。他们不认为玩和学习是对立的，更鼓励孩

子出去学习，更注重孩子会思考。家长会主动带孩

子去探求大自然的奥秘，去认识社会，他们奉行杜

威的

“

教育即生活

”

，

“

学校即社会

”

。他们鼓励孩子

去图书馆、博物馆阅读自己感兴趣的书籍，并参加

社会实践。

社会实践。

    

    

孩子在成长过程中，打架不可避免。中国和外

孩子在成长过程中，打架不可避免。中国和外

国的家庭对待打架的态度截然不同。

    

如果孩子

如果孩子

打了架，中国的父母，首先会赶快制止，因为中国

家庭和中国的教育认为

“

打架不是好孩子

”

。家长看

到自己的孩子被打，或是孩子被打伤，在打架现场，

肇事孩子的双方父母就会身不由己地

“

参战

”

。因为，

家长教育孩子的底线是

“

容忍是有限度的

”

，

“

挨打，

打不过对方，有失尊严，是一种无能的表现，将来

如何在社会立足

?”

事后，被打孩子的家长往往会找

到学校，去评理，去要求老师严厉惩处打人的孩子。

打人一方的家长，或者说打架占了便宜的一方，往

往沾沾自喜，偷偷在家里表扬孩子，因为他的孩子

没吃亏，有些家长就是这样公然教唆孩子的。中国

的家长多数怕自己孩子吃亏，也有怕打坏别人的。

像申先生的父母那样，明明知道那所学校是个

“

火

坑

”

，反而偏偏把孩子往那里送，让孩子挨打受罪，

这简直不可思议。

这简直不可思议。

    

美国的家长看到孩子打架，会在一旁袖手旁观。

美国的家长看到孩子打架，会在一旁袖手旁观。

我的朋友在美国工作，移居加拿大，他的孩子也曾

挨了打，他对孩子说：

“

挨打了

?

打他

!”

我朋友回来

探家，谈起孩子打架的事情，

探家，

谈起孩子打架的事情，他说：

谈起孩子打架的事情，

他说：

“

你应该这样教

育孩子：谁打了你，

育孩子：

谁打了你，你就打谁。

谁打了你，

你就打谁。

”“

这不成了打群架、

教唆犯了吗

不行，绝对不行。

”

我表示了强烈的反

对。西方国家的老师遇到孩子打架，也常常在一旁

仔细观察，除了有危险，一般不加制止。事后，才

找学生谈话，分析打架的得失利弊。如果孩子打了

架，只要事后跟老师汇报了，就算完了。如果打架

后没有汇报，即使挨了打，有理，也要受到老师的

批评和惩罚。

批评和惩罚。

    

对于孩子打架，中国的家长和老师认为打架是

对于孩子打架，中国的家长和老师认为打架是

一场武力争斗，担心自己的孩子或是他人的孩子受

到伤害，美国的家长和老师认为打架，打个痛快，

只要不出事，它是锻炼孩子依靠自己的力量，培养

将来面对复杂社会事物能力的一种机会；中国的家

长和老师是作为仲裁者、

“

法官

”

的姿态出现；美国

的家长和教师则作为

“

导师

”

的姿态出现，中国家庭

处理孩子打架的思想基于数千年来孔子的

“

和为贵

”

的儒家理念；美国家长或是袖手旁观，或是

“

教唆

”

孩子

“

返打

”

，是基于突出维护个人利益，争得和保

障个人的权益不能受到任何伤害的观点；中国的家

庭认为为求和，即使自己委曲也要求全，美国人认

为只有个人的权益得到保护和尊重，社会才能和

谐，人人才能平等。

谐，人人才能平等。

    9

、理财教育

、理财教育

    

中国人的君子作风是淡泊名利。

中国人的君子作风是淡泊名利。

“

君子喻于义，

小人喻于利

”

的思维定式使中国父母根本没有理财

教育的观念。在中国，挣钱养家和管理钱财是大人

的事，孩子离这些还很远。他们没钱时便伸手向父

母要。即使是成家立业后还是可以的。中国父母总

是无偿的向子女提供钱财，一味无条件的满足子女

的花钱要求，放纵孩子过分的消费欲望。

    

在西方，特别是美国，理财教育是家庭教育的

在西方，特别是美国，理财教育是家庭教育的

一个分支。因此对此十分重视。西方父母一般不会

不正规、无计划的给孩子钱，而是定期发给孩子一

份固定基金。并帮助孩子树立正确的理财意识，养

成良好的理财习惯，还注重对金钱的基本品质的培

养。西方父母教孩子制定预算计划，学会合理的花

钱；鼓励孩子出外打工，靠自己的劳动获取收入；

教育孩子储存钱财，不乱挥霍；帮助孩子学会捐赠，

帮助他人；教育孩子在金钱面前应当诚实，金钱面

前要有自尊；简朴节约是美德；正确决策把握理财

机遇，乐于为别人服务。

机遇，乐于为别人服务。

       

综上所述，我们可以看出中西家庭教育传统

各有千秋，他们都是扎根于各自的传统文化土壤中

的。我们当前遇到的家庭教育中的不良现象有很大

一部分是由于具体教法的不妥而造成的。

    

因此，我们要一方面继承和发扬中国古代家庭

因此，我们要一方面继承和发扬中国古代家庭

教育的优良传统，另一方面汲取西方家教的精华，

促进有中国特色的家庭教育的改革。在吸取我国优

秀民族文化的基础上，将现代科学育人知识和方

法，大力普及到千家万户，转变家长的观念，提高

家长的自身素质。

家长的自身素质。

    

在这里我有几点建议，主要包含

在这里我有几点建议，主要包含

4

个方面：

(1)

首先是家庭教育观念的现代化，摒弃陈旧教育观

念，与时俱进，跟上时代发展步伐。现代家庭教育

的内容和方法科学化，以及教育手段的现代化。建

立现代家庭教育的机制，实现家庭教育管理的规范

化。建立家庭教育的服务体系，做到保障措施制度

化。

化。

    (2)

(2)

确立家长在教育行为中的法制观念，解决好

家庭教育中依法治教的问题；增强家庭教育的民主

意识，尊重孩子，平等沟通，改变简单粗暴、压制

体罚等不良作风；

体罚等不良作风；

    (3)

(3)

树立新的家庭教育理念，把

“

教子做人

”

作为

家庭教育的重中之重；利用亲情教育的优势，开展

个性化教育，发展孩子个性，为国家培养各种有用

之才；采取鼓励、引导、宽容的科学方法，耐心教

育，不断提高孩子自尊心、自信心和上进心；

    (4)

(4)

紧跟知识经济和信息时代的发展，进一步拓

宽家庭教育思路，增强开放意识，提高家庭教育的

适应性；重视和解决

“

重智轻德

”

的教育倾向，促进

智力因素与非智力因素教育的有机结合，教育孩子

学会学习和求知；继承中华民族优秀家教传统同

时，也要面向世界，吸收引进外国思想文化精品，

开展东西方家庭教育的交流。

   

【总结】

  

总之，中国的家庭教育和西方家庭教

育有很大差异，各有优劣，我们应该祛除糟粕，取

其精华。不失时机地推进家庭教育现代化，使教育

世界化，各自取长补短，共同发展。

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a 

modern man 

modern 

man with 

man 

with perfect 

with 

perfect moral

perfect 

moral

quality, healthy 

quality, 

healthy individuality . 

healthy 

individuality . Instead of 

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of a 

of 

a sel

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sel

fish and 

fish 

and dependent 

and 

dependent utilitarian. 

dependent 

utilitarian. 

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the cultivation 

the 

cultivation of 

cultivation 

of independent 

of 

independent consci

independent 

consci

ousness is 

ousness 

is different. 

is 

different. 

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The 

Chinese guardians 

Chinese 

guardians think 

guardians 

think the 

think 

the value 

the 

value of 

value 

of ed

of 

ed

ucation is 

ucation 

is studying 

is 

studying for 

studying 

for entering 

for 

entering a 

entering 

a higher 

a 

higher schoo

higher 

schoo

l, they 

l, 

they only 

they 

only ask 

only 

ask the 

ask 

the child 

the 

child to 

child 

to study 

to 

study attentively, 

study 

attentively, 

without bothering 

without 

bothering about 

bothering 

about other 

about 

other things. 

other 

things. So 

things. 

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the c

the 

c

hildern’s consciousness 

hildern’s 

consciousness of 

consciousness 

of all

of 

all-round 

all

-round developme

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developme

nt is 

nt 

is faint. 

is 

faint. So 

faint. 

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So 

the child 

the 

child has 

child 

has no 

has 

no opportunity 

no 

opportunity to

opportunity 

to

develop and 

develop 

and enhance 

and 

enhance his 

enhance 

his qualities 

his 

qualities in 

qualities 

in many 

in 

many as

many 

as

pect. The 

pect. 

The Chinese 

The 

Chinese parents 

Chinese 

parents place 

parents 

place their 

place 

their hopes 

their 

hopes o

hopes 

o

n the 

n 

the child, 

the 

child, the 

child, 

the sense 

the 

sense of 

sense 

of responsibility 

of 

responsibility for 

responsibility 

for edu

for 

edu

cation is 

cation 

is overloaded. 

is 

overloaded. The 

overloaded. 

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unsuitable extending

unsuitable 

extending

of guardian 

of 

guardian role, 

guardian 

role, the 

role, 

the replacements 

the 

replacements of 

replacements 

of the 

of 

the chil

the 

chil

d to 

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to arrange 

to 

arrange everything 

arrange 

everything in 

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in daily 

in 

daily life, 

daily 

life, to 

life, 

to stipula

to 

stipula

te the 

te 

the study 

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study content. 

study 

content. and 

content. 

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and 

to settle 

to 

settle the 

settle 

the develo

the 

develo

pment direction. 

pment 

direction. Therefore, 

direction. 

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Therefore, 

the child 

the 

child becomes 

child 

becomes 

all dependent 

all 

dependent individual, 

dependent 

individual, lacks 

individual, 

lacks independent 

lacks 

independent cha

independent 

cha

racter. It 

racter. 

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It 

causes the 

causes 

the child 

the 

child to 

child 

to be 

to 

be able 

be 

able to 

able 

to do 

to 

do no

do 

no

thing but 

thing 

but knowledge 

but 

knowledge study. 

knowledge 

study. The 

study. 

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meticulous co

meticulous 

co

ncern, helps 

ncern, 

helps to 

helps 

to form 

to 

form the 

form 

the habit 

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habit of 

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of relying 

of 

relying on 

relying 

on o

on 

o

thers. So 

thers. 

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when facing 

when 

facing the 

facing 

the storm, 

the 

storm, he 

storm, 

he is 

he 

is unable

is 

unable

to do 

to 

do anything. 

do 

anything. Being 

anything. 

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unable to 

unable 

to get 

to 

get the 

get 

the help,

the 

help,

he will 

he 

will blame 

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blame everyone 

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everyone and 

everyone 

and everything 

and 

everything but 

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mself. 

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western parents 

western 

parents pay 

parents 

pay great 

pay 

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attention to 

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to r

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r

aising children's 

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children's independent 

children's 

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independent 

consciousness sin

consciousness 

sin

ce childhood. 

ce 

childhood. In 

childhood. 

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the Western 

the 

Western family, 

Western 

family, you 

family, 

you may

you 

may

see the 

see 

the child 

the 

child addresses 

child 

addresses his 

addresses 

his visit 

his 

visit relatives 

visit 

relatives and

relatives 

and

friend by 

friend 

by name, 

by 

name, bolds 

name, 

bolds expresses 

bolds 

expresses his 

expresses 

his own 

his 

own opi

own 

opi

nion, participates 

nion, 

participates in 

participates 

in family 

in 

family discussion 

family 

discussion as 

discussion 

as adults

as 

adults

do. He 

do. 

He solves 

He 

solves some 

solves 

some problems 

some 

problems all 

problems 

all by 

all 

by himself. 

by 

himself. 

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The 

parents do 

parents 

do not 

do 

not reprove 

not 

reprove the 

reprove 

the child 

the 

child casually.

child 

casually.

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leave the 

leave 

the child 

the 

child an 

child 

an opportunity 

an 

opportunity of 

opportunity 

of under

of 

under

going a 

going 

a process 

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process of 

process 

of tempering. 

of 

tempering. All 

tempering. 

All this 

All 

this enables

this 

enables

the child 

the 

child to 

child 

to dare 

to 

dare to 

dare 

to rush, 

to 

rush, dare 

rush, 

dare to 

dare 

to do, 

to 

do, dare 

do, 

dare t

dare 

t

o take 

o 

take a 

take 

a risk, 

a 

risk, dare 

risk, 

dare to 

dare 

to display 

to 

display himself. 

display 

himself. Let 

himself. 

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Let 

the 

child learn 

child 

learn how 

learn 

how to 

how 

to make 

to 

make a 

make 

a living 

a 

living since 

living 

since childho

since 

childho

od, have 

od, 

have the 

have 

the strong 

the 

strong physique,the 

strong 

physique,the quality 

physique,the 

quality of 

quality 

of be

of 

be

aring hardships 

aring 

hardships and 

hardships 

and standing 

and 

standing hard 

standing 

hard work, 

hard 

work, and 

work, 

and 

good psychological 

good 

psychological quality, 

psychological 

quality, thus 

quality, 

thus moves 

thus 

moves toward

moves 

toward

s life 

s 

life with 

life 

with perfect 

with 

perfect composure. 

perfect 

composure. Such 

composure. 

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independe

nt individuality 

nt 

individuality causes 

individuality 

causes the 

causes 

the child 

the 

child to 

child 

to pay 

to 

pay great 

pay 

great a

great 

a

ttention to 

ttention 

to individual 

to 

individual ability 

individual 

ability and 

ability 

and the 

and 

the struggle 

the 

struggle 

when he 

when 

he moves 

he 

moves towards 

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towards the 

towards 

the hly,

the 

hly,

the difference 

the 

difference in 

difference 

in emotional 

in 

emotional education 

emotional 

education and 

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and cor

and 

cor

poral punishment. 

poral 

punishment. 

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Why 

family education 

family 

education is 

education 

is different 

is 

different from 

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from schoo

from 

schoo

l education? 

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education? An 

education? 

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important characteristic 

important 

characteristic is 

characteristic 

is that

is 

that

family education 

family 

education is 

education 

is love 

is 

love education. 

love 

education. However, 

education. 

However, 

maybe the 

maybe 

the Chinese 

the 

Chinese traditional 

Chinese 

traditional culture 

traditional 

culture emphasiz

culture 

emphasiz

es “reserve”, 

es 

“reserve”, the 

“reserve”, 

the Chinese 

the 

Chinese family 

Chinese 

family is 

family 

is not 

is 

not good 

not 

good a

good 

a

t expressing 

t 

expressing love, 

expressing 

love, and 

love, 

and the 

and 

the emotional 

the 

emotional education

emotional 

education

is very 

is 

very weak. 

very 

weak. The 

weak. 

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communication between 

communication 

between C

between 

C

hinese parents 

hinese 

parents and 

parents 

and the 

and 

the child 

the 

child is 

child 

is characteristic 

is 

characteristic o

characteristic 

o

f China. 

f 

China. And 

China. 

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in the 

in 

the Chinese 

the 

Chinese family 

Chinese 

family , 

family 

, such 

, 

such char

such 

char

acters as 

acters 

as “no”, 

as 

“no”, “cannot”, 

“no”, 

“cannot”, “won’t 

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do”, “do 

do”, 

“do not 

“do 

not ”

not 

”

appear repeatedly, 

appear 

repeatedly, the 

repeatedly, 

the Chinese 

the 

Chinese collective 

Chinese 

collective educ

collective 

educ

ation is 

ation 

is accustomed 

is 

accustomed to 

accustomed 

to saying 

to 

saying to 

saying 

to the 

to 

the child 

the 

child “sh

child 

“sh

ould” besides 

ould” 

besides using 

besides 

using the 

using 

the negative 

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negative term 

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term to 

term 

to instr

to 

instr

uct the 

uct 

the child's 

the 

child's behavior. 

child's 

behavior. This 

behavior. 

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is the 

is 

the manifeslati

the 

manifeslati

on of 

on 

of guardian 

of 

guardian authoritative 

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authoritative colouring. 

authoritative 

colouring. Such 

colouring. 

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ra

w and 

w 

and cold 

and 

cold order 

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order phrases 

order 

phrases cause 

phrases 

cause the 

cause 

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the 

emotional

education to 

education 

to be 

to 

be blocked. 

be 

blocked. But 

blocked. 

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“one can 

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can not 

can 

not b

not 

b

ecome a 

ecome 

a useful 

a 

useful person 

useful 

person without 

person 

without being 

without 

being beaten”,

being 

beaten”,

“the club 

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club helps 

club 

helps the 

helps 

the child 

the 

child to 

child 

to be 

to 

be loyal 

be 

loyal son” 

loyal 

son” bri

son” 

bri

ng about 

ng 

about the 

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the difficulty 

the 

difficulty in 

difficulty 

in strengthening 

in 

strengthening the 

strengthening 

the e

the 

e

motional educaton. 

motional 

educaton. 

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to the 

to 

the investigation, 

the 

investigation, in 

investigation, 

in the 

in 

the Wester

the 

Wester

n family, 

n 

family, parents 

family, 

parents show 

parents 

show the 

show 

the their 

the 

their appreciation 

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appreciation t

appreciation 

t

o the 

o 

the children 

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children by 

children 

by using 

by 

using the 

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encouraging langu

encouraging 

langu

age. The 

age. 

The western 

The 

western parents 

western 

parents pay 

parents 

pay great 

pay 

great attention 

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attention 

to individual 

to 

individual quality 

individual 

quality and 

quality 

and the 

and 

the emotional 

the 

emotional commu

emotional 

commu

nication. The 

nication. 

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The 

family lays 

family 

lays emphasis 

lays 

emphasis on 

emphasis 

on the 

on 

the con

the 

con

struction and 

struction 

and the 

and 

the cultivation 

the 

cultivation of 

cultivation 

of emotion. 

of 

emotion. They 

emotion. 

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can vacate 

can 

vacate their 

vacate 

their time 

their 

time to 

time 

to talk 

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talk with 

talk 

with the 

with 

the child, 

the 

child, lis

child, 

lis

ten attentively 

ten 

attentively to 

attentively 

to the 

to 

the child's 

the 

child's aspirations, 

child's 

aspirations, and 

aspirations, 

and e

and 

e

mphasize heart 

mphasize 

heart to 

heart 

to heart 

to 

heart communication. 

heart 

communication. In 

communication. 

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W

estern countries, 

estern 

countries, the 

countries, 

the corporal 

the 

corporal punishment 

corporal 

punishment also

punishment 

also

offends the 

offends 

the law. 

the 

law. Moreover, 

law. 

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Moreover, 

the Western 

the 

Western pare

Western 

pare

nts are 

nts 

are very 

are 

very happy 

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happy praising 

happy 

praising their 

praising 

their own 

their 

own child 

own 

child in

child 

in

front of 

front 

of others, 

of 

others, they 

others, 

they think 

they 

think that 

think 

that this 

that 

this may 

this 

may rais

may 

rais

e child's 

e 

child's self-confidence. 

child's 

self-confidence. But 

self-confidence. 

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But 

the Chinese 

the 

Chinese mod

Chinese 

mod

est attitude 

est 

attitude causes 

attitude 

causes the 

causes 

the guardian 

the 

guardian not 

guardian 

not to 

not 

to be 

to 

be gla

be 

gla

d to 

d 

to do 

to 

do this, 

do 

this, because 

this, 

because they 

because 

they think 

they 

think that 

think 

that it 

that 

it can 

it 

can c

can 

c

ause the 

ause 

the child 

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child to 

child 

to be 

to 

be arrogant, 

be 

arrogant, they 

arrogant, 

they like 

they 

like nitpick

like 

nitpick

ing and 

ing 

and strengthening 

and 

strengthening child's 

strengthening 

child's weakness. 

child's 

weakness. 

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Eighthly, 

education method 

education 

method is 

method 

is different. 

is 

different. 

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The 

Chinese traditional 

Chinese 

traditional education 

traditional 

education method 

education 

method is 

method 

is 

a type 

a 

type of 

type 

of education 

of 

education in, 

education 

in, which 

in, 

which people 

which 

people repeat 

people 

repeat w

repeat 

w

hat the 

hat 

the book 

the 

book says 

book 

says and 

says 

and imbue 

and 

imbue the 

imbue 

the child 

the 

child with 

child 

with it.

with 

it.

It emphasizes 

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emphasizes mechanical 

emphasizes 

mechanical memorizing. 

mechanical 

memorizing. That 

memorizing. 

That is

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is

to say, 

to 

say, the 

say, 

the child 

the 

child receives 

child 

receives the 

receives 

the study. 

the 

study. There 

study. 

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There 

is

an ancient 

an 

ancient proverb. 

ancient 

proverb. If 

proverb. 

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If 

the book 

the 

book is 

book 

is read 

is 

read hund

read 

hund

reds of 

reds 

of times, 

of 

times, its 

times, 

its meaning 

its 

meaning is 

meaning 

is shown 

is 

shown naturally”.

shown 

naturally”.

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Zhu 

Xi also 

Xi 

also said 

also 

said “read 

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“read frequently 

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frequently then 

frequently 

then read 

then 

read a

read 

a

gain, if 

gain, 

if you 

if 

you can’t 

you 

can’t recite, 

can’t 

recite, until 

recite, 

until you 

until 

you can”. 

you 

can”. Theref

can”. 

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ore, the 

ore, 

the Chinese 

the 

Chinese guardians 

Chinese 

guardians most 

guardians 

most like 

most 

like seeing 

like 

seeing th

seeing 

th

e child 

e 

child sit 

child 

sit in 

sit 

in front 

in 

front of 

front 

of the 

of 

the desk, 

the 

desk, either 

desk, 

either reciting 

either 

reciting 

with his 

with 

his head 

his 

head wagging, 

head 

wagging, or 

wagging, 

or bending 

or 

bending over 

bending 

over the 

over 

the d

the 

d

esk doing 

esk 

doing exercises. 

doing 

exercises. The 

exercises. 

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The 

eyes do 

eyes 

do not 

do 

not leave 

not 

leave th

leave 

th

e books; 

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books; the 

books; 

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the 

hands do 

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do not 

do 

not leave 

not 

leave the 

leave 

the books. 

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books. 

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“Dig 

into books 

into 

books of 

books 

of saints 

of 

saints oblivious 

saints 

oblivious of 

oblivious 

of what 

of 

what is 

what 

is 

happening outside”. 

happening 

outside”. Load 

outside”. 

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the stomach 

the 

stomach with 

stomach 

with an

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cient's knowledge 

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knowledge and 

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ut knowing 

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whether 

they can 

they 

can be 

can 

be digested 

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digested or 

digested 

or 

not. 

  The west 

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west emphasizes 

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emphasizes the 

emphasizes 

the child’s 

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nderstanding”. They 

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life. 

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study resides 

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resides in 

resides 

in 

many kinds 

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kinds of 

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of forms. 

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forms. The 

forms. 

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western family 

western 

family has 

family 

has 

the special 

the 

special cooking 

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cooking class, 

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class, the 

class, 

the hardwork 

the 

hardwork class 

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a

nd the 

nd 

the playroom. 

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playroom. They 

playroom. 

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do not 

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not think 

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that 

play 

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study are 

study 

are conflicting 

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conflicting with 

conflicting 

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with 

each other, 

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other, and

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and

encourage the 

encourage 

the child 

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child to 

child 

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study outside, 

study 

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pay gre

pay 

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at attention 

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attention to 

attention 

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the child’s 

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to ponder. 

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ponder. Th

ponder. 

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parents usually 

parents 

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the

nature’s mystery, 

nature’s 

mystery, help 

mystery, 

help them 

help 

them know 

them 

know about 

know 

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the 

society. They 

society. 

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carry out 

carry 

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“education is 

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ife”, “school 

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society”. 

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the c

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hild to 

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the library, 

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museum 

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read

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books 

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in the 

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the social 

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social practice. 

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   In addition, 

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the western 

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family education 

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fers from 

fers 

from china's 

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china's in 

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nce, 

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time ago, 

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there was 

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program 

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ucation. A 

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and his 

and 

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his 

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mother 

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f the 

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in 

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a. During 

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know, 

his parents 

his 

parents sent 

parents 

sent 

him to 

him 

to an 

to 

an American 

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American military 

American 

military academy 

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academy to 

academy 

to study.

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study.

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were 

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question 

students” in 

students” 

in 

that school. 

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school. Mr. 

school. 

Mr. Shen 

Mr. 

Shen said 

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said that 

said 

that when 

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when he 

when 

he just 

he 

just 

arrived there, 

arrived 

there, he 

there, 

he was 

he 

was looked 

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looked down 

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down upon 

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upon and 

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beaten frequently 

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frequently with 

frequently 

with no 

with 

no reasons 

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reasons by 

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by 

stranger

s. Therefore, 

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he and 

he 

and his 

and 

his schoolmates 

his 

schoolmates fought 

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fought w

fought 

w

ith each 

ith 

each other 

each 

other frequently, 

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frequently, the 

frequently, 

the fiercest 

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fiercest of 

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all w

all 

w

as that 

as 

that his 

that 

his bridge 

his 

bridge of 

bridge 

of the 

of 

the nose 

the 

nose was 

nose 

was broken 

was 

broken 13

broken 

13

Times. The 

Times. 

The Chinese 

The 

Chinese audience 

Chinese 

audience present 

audience 

present all 

present 

all felt 

all 

felt 

astonished, some 

astonished, 

some one 

some 

one asked 

one 

asked his 

asked 

his mother, 

his 

mother, “Why

mother, 

“Why

did you 

did 

you send 

you 

send the 

send 

the child 

the 

child to 

child 

to such 

to 

such a 

such 

a school 

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school to 

school 

to st

to 

st

udy?” His 

udy?” 

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mother said, 

mother 

said, the 

said, 

the child 

the 

child had 

child 

had to 

had 

to be 

to 

be te

be 

te

mpered. 

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course, when 

course, 

when the 

when 

the child 

the 

child is 

child 

is growing, 

is 

growing, fight 

growing, 

fight 

is inevitable. 

is 

inevitable. The 

inevitable. 

The Chinese 

The 

Chinese and 

Chinese 

and the 

and 

the foreign 

the 

foreign fami

foreign 

fami

lies’ attitude 

lies’ 

attitude towards 

attitude 

towards it 

towards 

it is 

it 

is entirely 

is 

entirely different. 

entirely 

different. If 

different. 

If 

the child 

the 

child fight, 

child 

fight, Chinese 

fight, 

Chinese parents 

Chinese 

parents will 

parents 

will stop 

will 

stop it 

stop 

it at 

it 

at 

once, because 

once, 

because the 

because 

the Chinese 

the 

Chinese family 

Chinese 

family and 

family 

and the 

and 

the Chi

the 

Chi

nese education 

nese 

education think 

education 

think that 

think 

that “a 

that 

“a good 

“a 

good child 

good 

child will 

child 

will n

will 

n

ot fight”. 

ot 

fight”. If 

fight”. 

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If 

the parents 

the 

parents see 

parents 

see that 

see 

that their 

that 

their own 

their 

own chi

own 

chi

ld is 

ld 

is beaten, 

is 

beaten, or 

beaten, 

or injured. 

or 

injured. At 

injured. 

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the scene 

the 

scene of 

scene 

of fighti

of 

fighti

ng, the 

ng, 

the child's 

the 

child's parents 

child's 

parents will 

parents 

will take 

will 

take part 

take 

part in 

part 

in the 

in 

the “w

the 

“w

ar” involuntary. 

ar” 

involuntary. Because, 

involuntary. 

Because, the 

Because, 

the parents 

the 

parents educate 

parents 

educate 

the child 

the 

child “the 

child 

“the tolerance 

“the 

tolerance has 

tolerance 

has the 

has 

the limitation”, 

the 

limitation”, “fi

limitation”, 

“fi

ght with 

ght 

with others, 

with 

others, if 

others, 

if he 

if 

he fails 

he 

fails in 

fails 

in fighting 

in 

fighting he 

fighting 

he will 

he 

will l

will 

l

ose the 

ose 

the dignity, 

the 

dignity, it 

dignity, 

it is 

it 

is a 

is 

a kind 

a 

kind of 

kind 

of incompetent 

of 

incompetent pe

incompetent 

pe

rformance, showing 

rformance, 

showing he 

showing 

he won't 

he 

won't have 

won't 

have a 

have 

a foothold 

a 

foothold i

foothold 

i

n the 

n 

the society 

the 

society in 

society 

in the 

in 

the future?” 

the 

future?” Afterwards, 

future?” 

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the p

the 

p

arents, whose 

arents, 

whose child 

whose 

child was 

child 

was beaten, 

was 

beaten, often 

beaten, 

often go 

often 

go to 

go 

to t

to 

t

he school 

he 

school to 

school 

to have 

to 

have it 

have 

it out 

it 

out and 

out 

and ask 

and 

ask the 

ask 

the teacher 

the 

teacher 

to punish 

to 

punish the 

punish 

the child 

the 

child who 

child 

who beats 

who 

beats their 

beats 

their child. 

their 

child. How

child. 

How

ever, the 

ever, 

the parents, 

the 

parents, whose 

parents, 

whose child 

whose 

child beats 

child 

beats others 

beats 

others or

others 

or

you can 

you 

can say, 

can 

say, wins 

say, 

wins others, 

wins 

others, are 

others, 

are often 

are 

often pleased 

often 

pleased 

and praise 

and 

praise the 

praise 

the child 

the 

child secretly 

child 

secretly at 

secretly 

at home, 

at 

home, because

home, 

because

his child 

his 

child had 

child 

had not 

had 

not suffered 

not 

suffered a 

suffered 

a loss, 

a 

loss, some 

loss, 

some paren

some 

paren

ts instigated 

ts 

instigated the 

instigated 

the child 

the 

child to 

child 

to the 

to 

the action 

the 

action openly 

action 

openly like

openly 

like

this. Most 

this. 

Most of 

Most 

of Chinese 

of 

Chinese parents 

Chinese 

parents fear 

parents 

fear their 

fear 

their own 

their 

own 

child will 

child 

will suffer 

will 

suffer losses, 

suffer 

losses, and 

losses, 

and also 

and 

also fear 

also 

fear hurting 

fear 

hurting o

hurting 

o

thers. However 

thers. 

However some 

However 

some parents 

some 

parents like 

parents 

like Mr. 

like 

Mr. Shen’s 

Mr. 

Shen’s p

Shen’s 

p

arents, they 

arents, 

they knew 

they 

knew obviously 

knew 

obviously that 

obviously 

that the 

that 

the school 

the 

school is

school 

is

“a fiery 

“a 

fiery pit”, 

fiery 

pit”, and 

pit”, 

and still 

and 

still sent 

still 

sent the 

sent 

the child 

the 

child there, 

child 

there, let

there, 

let

ting the 

ting 

the child 

the 

child get 

child 

get beaten. 

get 

beaten. It 

beaten. 

It is 

It 

is simply 

is 

simply inconcei

simply 

inconcei

vable.[ “Mother's 

vable.[ 

“Mother's Management 

“Mother's 

Management Art”,

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Art”,  

Art”,

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Chongqing Publishing 

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   When American 

When 

American parents 

American 

parents see 

parents 

see the 

see 

the child 

the 

child fight, 

child 

fight, 

they will 

they 

will stand 

will 

stand by. 

stand 

by. My 

by. 

My younger 

My 

younger uncle 

younger 

uncle works 

uncle 

works in

works 

in

US. His 

US. 

His child 

His 

child once 

child 

once came 

once 

came under 

came 

under attack, 

under 

attack, he 

attack, 

he sai

he 

sai

d to 

d 

to the 

to 

the child: 

the 

child: “Came 

child: 

“Came under 

“Came 

under attack? 

under 

attack? Hit 

attack? 

Hit him!”

Hit 

him!”

Once my 

Once 

my younger 

my 

younger uncle 

younger 

uncle returned 

uncle 

returned to 

returned 

to visit 

to 

visit the 

visit 

the 

family, and 

family, 

and mentioned 

and 

mentioned the 

mentioned 

the matter 

the 

matter about 

matter 

about the 

about 

the c

the 

c

hild's fights, 

hild's 

fights, he 

fights, 

he said: 

he 

said: “You 

said: 

“You should 

“You 

should educate 

should 

educate the

educate 

the

child like 

child 

like this: 

like 

this: “Who 

this: 

“Who hits 

“Who 

hits you, 

hits 

you, you 

you, 

you will 

you 

will hit 

will 

hit hi

hit 

hi

m.” “Can 

m.” 

“Can you 

“Can 

you instigate 

you 

instigate the 

instigate 

the child 

the 

child to 

child 

to mass 

to 

mass fighti

mass 

fighti

ng? Absolutel

ng? 

Absolutely, 

Absolutel

y, that 

y, 

that won’t 

that 

won’t do!” 

won’t 

do!” I 

do!” 

I expressed 

I 

expressed th

expressed 

th

e intense 

e 

intense opposition. 

intense 

opposition. 

   When the 

When 

the child 

the 

child is 

child 

is fighting, 

is 

fighting, the 

fighting, 

the Western 

the 

Western teac

Western 

teac

her will 

her 

will also 

will 

also stand 

also 

stand by, 

stand 

by, observing 

by, 

observing carefully 

observing 

carefully and

carefully 

and

they do 

they 

do not 

do 

not stop 

not 

stop usually 

stop 

usually unless 

usually 

unless there 

unless 

there is 

there 

is the 

is 

the 

danger. Afterwards, 

danger. 

Afterwards, they 

Afterwards, 

they will 

they 

will talk 

will 

talk with 

talk 

with student

with 

student

s, and 

s, 

and analyse 

and 

analyse the 

analyse 

the gains 

the 

gains and 

gains 

and losses 

and 

losses of 

losses 

of fighting.

of 

fighting.

If the 

If 

the student 

the 

student fight, 

student 

fight, so 

fight, 

so long 

so 

long as 

long 

as he 

as 

he reports 

he 

reports to

reports 

to

the teacher 

the 

teacher afterwards, 

teacher 

afterwards, this 

afterwards, 

this is 

this 

is OK, 

is 

OK, if 

OK, 

if not, 

if 

not, eve

not, 

eve

n if 

n 

if he 

if 

he comes 

he 

comes under 

comes 

under attack, 

under 

attack, and 

attack, 

and is 

and 

is reasonable,

is 

reasonable,

he will 

he 

will also 

will 

also receive 

also 

receive teacher's 

receive 

teacher's criticism 

teacher's 

criticism and 

criticism 

and th

and 

th

e penalty. 

e 

penalty. 

   About fight, 

About 

fight, Chinese 

fight, 

Chinese parents 

Chinese 

parents and 

parents 

and teachers 

and 

teachers a

teachers 

a

re act 

re 

act as 

act 

as “ 

as 

“ pacificator”, 

“ 

pacificator”, “judge”, 

pacificator”, 

“judge”, American 

“judge”, 

American par

American 

par

ents and 

ents 

and the 

and 

the teachers 

the 

teachers are 

teachers 

are act 

are 

act as 

act 

as “teacher”. 

as 

“teacher”. T

“teacher”. 

T

he thought 

he 

thought of 

thought 

of dealing 

of 

dealing with 

dealing 

with fightst 

with 

fightst in 

fightst 

in Chinese 

in 

Chinese f

Chinese 

f

amilies, is 

amilies, 

is based 

is 

based on 

based 

on the 

on 

the Confucianist 

the 

Confucianist idea 

Confucianist 

idea of 

idea 

of 

“frendly and 

“frendly 

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ome educationalists 

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